Sexually experimenting women

During the years in which this site existed, I have received many letters from women who were married or had a heterosexual long term relationship and defined themselves as heterosexual. Yet, they have suddenly felt a strong attraction to a woman- a close friend or a colleague of theirs. By the way, I have noticed that women often post in Internet forums on the topic and ask ‘what should I do’. In most of these letters and posts, the women claim that their husbands and friends accept their attraction to women favourably. On the first place, I would like to state my personal conviction that most (but not all) of the letters and posts are not quite genuine. First, I doubt that if a woman shares with her husband or boyfriend that she has FEELINGS for another woman, he will accept the relationship of his wife/ girlfriend as truly benign. This makes me think that the woman has not explained to the man that there were FEELINGS involved; she has just mentioned the primordial sexual attraction and interest which had to be satisfied. Second, I am strongly convinced that most of these letters and posts are written by men who pretend to be women. Some try- to- be researchers and pseudo psychologists who attempt to gather opinions and all kinds of other thrash. Third, there is the group of women who just try to get a woman in their husbands` bed after the husband has convinced them to try or they are just attempting to diversify their monotonous heterosexual life.
But let us leave this topic for now and concentrate on those who ARE women and who ARE sincere. I would take the risk and place my humble opinion that some men don`t care about the side relationships of their women, and some even find that erotic and a turn- on just because they don`t believe that another women can threaten their relationship and take ‘their’ woman away.
I cannot speak from personal experience, but my whole self convincingly whispers that the feelings and heart of a lesbian who gets involved with such a woman would be the last thing to care on the side of the couple. I might sound suspicious, but I am absolutely convinced in what I said. And what kind of a lesbian would like to get involved in a relationship in which feeling do not matter?... I would not say what.
I read these letters and posts and I think of the relationships with men I`ve had in the past. I cannot remember a single man who has made me feel as if I was an object in an experiment. But I get exactly this feeling for the women who ask me whether they would find a lesbian who will understand or help them. And I wonder why do these women think that lesbians wait for a single word or a call and are ready to jump in their beds? May be those are women who don`t have even a vague idea what a lesbian is. They have been influenced by the heterosexist patriarchal society and they have accepted that a lesbian just means a women having sex with another woman…whatever kind of sex...whenever… with whoever… just the sex is between two women. And sometimes even, lesbians are ready to accept a man in their bed just to be with a woman. It is all so sad.