What is a stable relationship?

Many of us would give our relationship as an example of a stable one as a response to the question “What is a stable relationship?” Actually, this does not relate so much to the norms and criteria, but to the desire of each of us to find a confirmation that her relationship is stable.
According to a survey conducted around Europe, only 30% of the people (which is the upper limit) come from stable families with good relations. This means that at least 70% of the people come from broken families or ones with worsened relations. Actually, my idea is not to try defining what is a “stable relationship,” but to describe the two main obstacles before the creation of a “stable relationship” from the very beginning.

What kinds of women attract us?
Have you had a friend who asked you to meet her with a good looking lesbian? I have had many such cases, and I’m sure that everyone has had. And I always thought that those who ask me do that because they cannot make the attractive women get interested in them. They tell that women who would like to go out with them are either crazy or unattractive, or whatever else that stops them from getting into them. Those who they like are not interested in them, and they don’t know how to approach and talk to them. And so…I ask her what kinda woman does she want to meet? The response: “I want to meet a beautiful, energetic, sports type, smart, considerate, and party kind of a woman.” Good try. I look at my friend who is at least 20 kg overweight, for whom climbing the stairs to the second floor is a sport, who has read two books in her whole life, who asks me for a coffee once every tree months, and for whom a party is to check her email in an Internet club. …what will she do with this pretty, energetic, and smart woman…how will she attract and hold the attention of such woman.
Why do I say that?...My point is that all of us are attracted to smart and pretty women, but we attract people who are like us. Therefore, this friend of mine would be courted by a partner who is overweight, the homey type, kind of a dummy, and lazy. So, if we want to be with a pretty and smart woman with abilities…we have to also possess her beauty…her brains and her abilities…or we have to first acquire them because otherwise we may be looking for her for a life time. Only a relationship in which there is equality in this relation could be qualified a stable one.

Types and levels of the relationship:
There are different kinds of love. Even a mother loves her children equally strong, but in a different way. The same is with the relationships - there are different kinds of relations between women in love and their love is expressed at different levels. One of the most common problems in love relationships is that each of the partners expects different level of love than her partner can give her and different type of relations. The latter develop in time and if one of the partners has stronger feelings than the other, love levels don’t match and the relationship doesn’t work. Let us list the different types of relationships:
   - Superficial relationship
We are all familiar with this kind of relationship, and understand it very well. In this relationship, there is no engagement, risks, trouble. Relations are superficial and most often sporadic. There is no aspiration for communication, and only common interests or friends may be a reason to meet with each other. If you have any problems, either I don’t understand about them at all, or I just don’t care about them to loose my sleep for you.
   - Company
This is when we are together because of a definite side goal or common activity, and this activity is more important than the persona of the other. For example, I wanna go to a movie, and I call to ask you out. But you are not in the mood for movies right now and offer to go for a pizza. I prefer to decline the offer because I feel like going to the movies….and we don’t spend time together.
   - Friendship
This is exactly the opposite to company. The aim of all things we do in common is to spend time together. How we’ll fill in time is a secondary question. In the previous example…I’ll give up going to the movies, though I don’t feel like eating pizza and I really want to watch a movie.
   - Romantic Love
This is when friendship develops into shared love, passion, feelings, and sex. It can sound strange to many of the people who read this text, but I’m absolutely convinced that one stable relationship is possible only after friendship… AFTER. The strong and stable love cannot exist before a stable friendship.

All this is very brief and roughly sketched. Surely, the relationship levels are more and with more nuances. But it is also absolutely sure that the love levels of both partners must equalize for a stable relationship.