Individual rights in a relationship

Often in lesbian couples, one of the partners looses sight of what`s going on between both of them, especially if they live together. Slowly, the balance of the relationship disappears and before realizing it, one of the partners turns from a loved to a depressed woman. One day, she realizes that and begins to wonder whether her requirements were not to high or low…or nonexistent whatsoever, so that she has become a silent letter… I don`t know if it will sound too radical if I say that every couple goes through such a period of its cohabitation, but those are my observations. So, here it is a list of the rights of each partner in a relationship, and this list has the aim of helping you determine what is right or wrong. Of course, my opinion may be subjective, but I decided to share it… Somebody might find it useful.

Rights of each woman in an intimate relationship:
   . To have equal voice in decision making and equal responsibilities related to the relationship;
   . To have personal time;
   . To have room for privacy;
   . To have the right to personal money which you can spend the way you like as well as a voice in the allocation of
     the shared finances;
   . To develop your potential in the sphere you work without feeling guilty or egotistical, and without being afraid of
     developing your creativity, ability to challenge, capacity to learn, your business, etc.;
   . To maintain your friendship contacts from before the relationship with women and men as much as that doesn`t
     take a lot of your time together.
   . To express your opinion and to expect respect the same way you to show respect to hers.
   . To have and express your sexual preferences and desires without feeling self-centered, egotistical, picky, or
     aggressive; you also have the right to refuse sex;
   . To have your own emotional, physical, and intellectual needs, and to make them stand as important as her own;
   . To expect that your partner will take at least 50% of the hardships and tasks in your relationship;
   . To hold your partner responsible for her behavior instead of taking the blame on yourself;
   . To never let yourself be a subject of family violence; physical or emotional abuse; to leave your partner if this
     happens;
   . Not to live in fear;
   . To expect changes in your partner`s behavior, not only empty promises if a fault on her side breaks the balance
     of the relationship;
   . Not to blame yourself if the relationship in which you put so much love ends.

That`s it. The next time when you wonder if you expect too much from your partner, or if she puts too little into the relationship, or some sort of a combination, take a look at this list. If nothing else, I hope that it will at lest show you in what direction to turn your efforts, so that this relationship gets happier for you.