Are you ready for love?

It sounds like a simple question with an easy response at the first glance, right? Many of us decide that they know the answer to this question, rush into a relationship and later on, surprisingly discover that they haven’t been ready for love. So before you start a relationship, you need a response to the question: “Am I ready for love?” Let us see what the potential obstacles before a new relationship are.

Am I still in love with my former partner? Do I still have negative feelings or anger toward her?
Those are two very important questions which clearly show whether we still have feelings for our former partner. When one relationship ends, no matter whom and how much is at fault, it takes time to get over the separation and to fight off our feelings, the positive or the negative. In this period of overcoming the relationship, we go through insecurity in feelings or insecurity in the situation around this separation.
Is it really over? We are emotionally loaded, and that’s why we have to give ourselves time to go through this period of insecurity and emotionality and calm down. Only then, we can think of another relationship. If we are in this period of an insecurity and emotionality when we start a new relationship, we risk to transfer a lot to the new relationship and toload the new partner with the negative emotions of the recent separation.

Do I often feel psychologically or emotionally wasted? Do I have the feeling that I don’t like myself? Do I have the feeling that I have a little to offer to my new partner? Do I have the feeling that no one wants to be with me and everyone departed me?
It is necessary that each of us can take care of herself, like and love herself before she starts a new relationship where she would have to take care not only of herself, but also of the relationship. Can this happen if you feel emotionally or physically wasted? To be able to create a stable relationship, each partner has to strive offering more than she receives, so that there is a balance and the relationship gets stronger. If we are emotionally wasted and have nothing to contribute for the development of the relationship, then we will just load her with negativism till all that remains of the relationship is a bitter taste in the mouth.

Do I have vices and addictions which I cannot overcome? Do I feel deserted and lonely? Do I think that I’m lost if I don’t create a new relationship quick?
Each of us… literally speaking, can “serve only one God” at a certain period of her life. Alcohol or drug abuse means simply that we have nothing to offer to a new partner. Thus, if we have found comfort or false “salvation” in the cup or the dose, we have no chance of creating a stable and normal relationship. But as obvious from the questions, there is an opposite side of the coin. Often, many women get addicted to creating new relationships, which are naturally short-lived. This is another form of addiction and escape from reality, from the problems which are inside us; and this also means that we are not ready for a new relationship.

Do I think that it is almost impossible to experience new emotions? Do I talk with unwillingness about my feelings and desires with acquaintances?
Every relationship is something full of feelings and emotions. We should be able to feel and to express our emotions to the partner. Communication is necessary. We should not think that our partner will guess our feelings and emotions if we don’t share them. If we are unable to experience feelings and emotions, then there are no feelings and emotions that we could share with our partner…it means that we are not ready for love.

If a woman responds to a couple of these questions positively, with “yes” or “may be,” then she is really not ready to create an intimate relationship with a new partner. She has to give herself some time to think about and overcome the demons inside, to wait the appearance of a partner who is really suitable, to decide what she wants from life and to feel the necessity of Love.