Lesbian couple - Should we move together... or?

The girl meets the boy. The girl falls in love with the boy. Time passes by, months or years, and the happy heterosexual couple decides to marry. Then, they engage... and so on, there is a sequence of events which culminate in a marriage. This couple, if lucky, will never end in the court divorsing. They will breed children...
And that`s it....

But what can a lesbian couple do? There is something more than the birth sex of the partners in a lesbian couple. And it is the fact that lesbians decide to live together much quicker than heterosexual couples. A date or two and they are in the same house. There is even a joke about that: "What does a lesbian carry on a second date? Her luggage."

Usually, we`ll hear one very simple and typical explanation of this fact. They have immediately sensed that this is the woman of their life and they have no need of more proofs and reassuarances. This is love from the first sight! Of course, this is not a solely lesbian thing.... many heterosexuals also do that, but as a whole, it seems that the heterosexual couples are more inclined to follow the traditional pattern in one relationship... dates - love - marriage... Some even have relationship for years before they decide to move together. You cannot notice such development in lesbian relationships. If nothing obstructs the relationship seriously (one of them is married, they don`t have a place to live or anything else), they move together almost immediately. Love from the first sight they say.

Then, there is the Internet, which happens to be a very convenient place for meeting other lesbians because of the anonimity and the posibility to overcome our fears. Many couples have met through the Internet, and they insist that they have got to know each other very well before they decided to move together. And that they would not have made this step as fast in a normal situation. I am a little skeptical about this explanation... because the comparison with the heterosexual couples shows one extremely fast get together in the lesbian couples. I`d like to add that gay men are not as inclined to move together. I haven`t looked at research on the topic, but I`m sure I will find explanations as differences in the emotionality, motivation, and who knows what...

All that does not give an explanation to the main question... why do so many lesbian couples move immediately together?
   - One of the main reason is the financially- psycholological dimesion...it is as simple as that...there are obvious advantages in sharing the living expenses.
   - Another reason is that we don`t see a lesbian relationship as serious as we would perceive a legal union. Personally, I think that this tendency will change if registred partnerships are allowed. It is much easier for a person to end a relationship if the only problem is what to pack.
   - I also think that the reason can stem from the tiny at first sight fact that the person who is historically obliged to make proposition to live together is missing- the man. Eliminating the man from the picture, the couple does not just trot but run with big leaps toward the decision to move together.

And so...this is a question which will hardly find the exact answer because of the closed life that lesbian couples live. So, you probably ask yourself why do I bring it.
Because I`d like to help you avoid disappointments... Quick relationships are consumed quickly... and burn that way. If we want them happen less often, we have to be careful what we do for our own good. And not to fool ourselves that we would be better off as heterosexuals.

It is not harder in a homosexual relationship if we don`t do it that way.