Questions you have to ask yourself

Be clear who you are before undertaking anything.

Are you sure that you have a homosexual orientation?
Don`t discuss the question with anyone before you have an answer to the question ''Are you sure?'' The doubt and insecurity you show will increase the doubt and insecurity of your parents, and it will diminish their faith in their own ability to estimate the situation.

Do you feel well and happy with your sexual orientation?
If you lead internal struggle against your sexuality, if you go through periods of guilt and depression, it is better to wait before discussing the topic with your parents. Your coming out requires huge amount of energyand emotional strength, and you`ll need to believe completely in your correctness.

Do you have support?
In case that your parents` reaction is very harsh, you`ll need a person or group of people whom you can turn to for emotional support. The situation can become a crisis if the young girl doesn`t have support.

Do you have enough information on homosexuality?
In almost all cases, the parents of the girl were influenced by the widespread societal homophobia. And their information will come mainly from this incorrect societal viewpoint. If the girl is well acquainted with the topic, she could point correct and well- informed sources to her parents.

What are the relations in the family at the moment?
If the girl can choose the moment of coming out, she have to take into consideration the relations and the emotional climate in the family. You have to pick such moment in which there isn`t crisis in the family... death of a close person... financial or emotional problems, health problems or anything else which can disturb the family relationships..

Are you patient?
It is possible that your parents need time to accept the new situation. Sometimes, this process can take years.

What are the reason for which you want to come out?
It is good if your reasons are someting of the sort- unwillingness to keep distance from your parents...or a new love you want to share about....of course, you don`t necessarily need a substancial reason, but it is very important that you don`t come out in the middle of an argument... when you are angry and you want to use your sexuality as a weapon against them.

Are you financially independent from your parents?
If the girl depends on her parents` finances- for example, they pay for her education, or she cannot allow to support herself, if she expects that her parents expel her from home, it is better that she waits until they don`t possess these weapons to influence her. The girl must be able to support herself before she comes out in front of her parents.

In general, what are your relations with your parents?
If there was love and understanding between the girl and her parents, then the chance that they will accept her sexuality increases.

What are the moral, social, and religious views of your parents?
If they are people with rigid understandings on the concepts of ''good'' and ''bad'', or they are religious people with unshakable conictions of what is right and wrong... if their idea of morality excludes deviations from their norms, then the parents may have hard time in accepting their daughter`s sexuality. But if they are open- minded people who tolerate different views and accept changes as normal part of the world`s development, then the girl can count on their understanding.

Is this your decision?
It is not necessary that all people come out infront of their parents. The girl should discard pressures from other people to come out if she isn`t convinced in the necessity and her own readiness to make this step.