To come out to your parents

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You come out to your parents!
Find out what to expect!

Typical situations:
The goal of this writing is to orient the young lesbians about the reactions and the path which the parents go through when they find out about the sexuality of their daughter.

The situations I focus on are shock, rejection, emotional burst, personal decision, and acceptance.

For the purpose of the discourse, I accept that the girl had doubts long enough about the way she could proceed, and the result of her internal struggle was the decision to tell her parents. My advice here is based on the supposition that the girl presumed at least one of her parents to be understanding, and if not willing to give her support, then at least give her a chance.
The scenarios I discuss relate only to the cases in which the girl expects that her parents will give her a chance and will show understanding. Thus, this discussion is useless in case that the girl has serious reasons to doubt that her parents will show understanding, and considers that straining relations with her parents is a possible consequence.
Every family is different. And the relations in every family are also different. Despite that in most cases these described scenarios of reaction encompass any family, the girl has to consider the specifics of her own as well. Anyhow, it will be useful for the girl to take look at the ideas discussed on this page.
Before taking the step of coming out to her parents, the girl should ask herself some questions.
Read those HERE

When you share with your parents, your roles might suddenly change for a moment. The parents will want to know more, if not everything about your sexuality and your sexual experience. You have to play the role of a “parent” for a little and explain them everything patiently and in detail, so that they are able to become aware of their feelings, to understand, and accept the situation. This is not as easy as it seems. Especially if you insist that they understand and accept this important part of your life right away. To make it easier, you have to be ready to wait. You’d have to explain the same things over and over. The fact that you have explained something does not mean that they will understand and accept it immediately. At the beginning, the progress will be very slow. By the way, their emotional reactions will depend to a great extent on their intellectual level. You have to give them enough space and time. Sometimes, this can take a long time. Be very patient. Many families accept the news as a tragedy, as if they have lost the daughter they have known and loved.

I was told about one father who silently looked at his daughter for a long time and then shouted:
“I DON'T KNOW WHO ARE YOU! BUT I WANT YOU TO LEAVE AWAY RIGHT AWAY AND BRING MY DAUGHTER BACK!"

When one girl told her mother that she was a lesbian, the approximately the following conversation took place:
   - Mom, I wanna tell you something.
   - Tell me.
   - Mom, I am homosexual.
   - What do you want to say by that?
   - Well, I want to say that I’m a lesbian.
After a long moment of silence, the mother asks:
   - You want to tell me that you lick other women pussy?

Parents sometimes loose control and react very crudely and spontaneously… luckily, this is most often temporary.
So, though the situations discussed in the next section relate to most families, I want to underscore that not all parents will react like that. Sometimes, only half of the situation will correspond to yours. And the duration of those is also individual.Some of them might not be applicable at all, so the decision is yours. I hope you find them helpful.

Many parents think that they know and understand their children well since the moment of their birth. Sometimes even the fact that they haven’t known what was happening with their daughter can get them out of control. Thus, your knowledge and understanding of your parents is very important. It might be better to give them a hint about your sexuality so that they come to the conclusion themselves. The possible ways are many, and your correct appraisal of the right approach can be decisive. Many parents have a rigid, unquestionable notion of their child. And they find it difficult to answer the question whether they can accept and like this true and new individual who substitutes their own notion of their child. In many cases, the parents might not distance themselves from the child, but have the feeling that she distances herself from them. Appraise the situation carefully.

Read about the different scenarios of reactions on both sides:

Shock - Rejection - Emotional brust - Personal decision - Acceptance